Perfecting timings: Notes from an Indian Matchmaker

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Disclaimer: The thoughts below are our own, and you may not agree with us. So, we can just agree to disagree.

It’s just occurred to us this week what gets two people together. We find the business of matchmaking both exciting, and excruciatingly hard, and then we see all these weddings happening around us, and we are hitting ourselves wondering just how (or rather, why) in the world are two people finding each other?


We think we’re a step closer to understanding that. You see, it’s not just about the fundamentals matching. You can matchmake that, but what’s out of our control is the timing. Some would call this destiny. We feel that two people can be great for each other, and everything else seems to be matching up, but just that one of them is in a different place than the other. Perhaps one of them is busy building their empire, and not just ready to meet somebody. Perhaps, they just got over a bad divorce, or a relationship, and they’re too wound up overthinking and overanalyzing that. Perhaps we’re too busy admiring ourselves, and that love could come and punch us in the face, and we still wouldn’t know. Timings become crucial when two people find each other.


It kinda reminds us of the movie – Four weddings and a funeral. It was the one with Hugh Grant, we think. The premise of the movie was quite similar. It was about two people who met each other in different social situations, but one of them, or both, were not ready to “meet” each other. But when the stars did align, and the timing was right, the universe came together to bring them together. Just because somebody we really like doesn’t like us back (story of our lives, really), it’s not that it’s not supposed to be. Perhaps it’s because our timing is all wrong. We feel that if it were meant to be, it shall happen.


Which is when we counsel our clients, and try and find their better halves, we want to make sure that they both are in the same place. If not, then no matter how many commonalities they share or if they were destined to be together – it just wouldn’t work out. It’s sad really, and this is why the pursuit of love is both mysterious, and heartbreaking.


Until then, here is something that George (from Seinfeld) once said:

George: Oh, what’s the point? When I like them, they don’t like me, when they like me, I don’t like them. Why can’t I act with the ones I like the same way I do with the ones I don’t like?

Jerry: Well, you’ve only got another fifty years or so to go before it’ll all be over…

George: Maybe I need someone who doesn’t speak English.

Jerry: Yeah, how about a mute?

George: A mute would be good.

Jerry: Ah, where you gonna meet a mute?

George: This is what my life has come to… Tryin to meet a mute.


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With Love,

Team AWA

Rahul Singhania

Client Lead, AWA Plus

(with edits from Shifalika)